You’re not “difficult.” You’re not “anxious.” You’re not “overthinking it.”
You’re a woman who has been dismissed so many times that your body braces before the doctor even walks in.
The medical system conditions you to shrink.
To question yourself.
To soften your words.
To present your pain in a way that won’t upset anyone.
None of that is your fault.
It’s the system you were handed.
What no one tells you about the medical system
• Most women have never been taught how to advocate for themselves.
We’re taught to be “nice,” “polite,” and “patient.” Not clear.
• Doctors often speak in absolutes to make you doubt your own perception.
“It’s normal.”
“It’s anxiety.”
“It’s hormones.”
These are dismissal scripts, not answers.
• If your symptoms don’t fit neatly into their charts, the blame shifts to you.
As if you’re misinterpreting your own body.
• You’re expected to explain your pain concisely while you’re in pain.
That’s not a reasonable ask.
• You leave appointments with more questions than clarity.
Which keeps you coming back in confusion instead of confidence.
• You’ve been conditioned to believe you’re “too much” for wanting understanding.
Meanwhile, your symptoms are still happening — with or without their validation.
You’re not the problem.
The medical system was never built around your lived experience.
There is nothing wrong with your perception.
There is nothing wrong with your questions.
You don’t need to shrink or over-explain.
You need language, preparation, and structure.
What We Do Together
• Slow everything down so you can organize your experience without overwhelm
Your clarity starts before the appointment even begins.
• Turn vague symptoms into a clear narrative doctors actually understand
No spiraling, no rambling, no apologizing for existing.
• Build phrases that stop dismissals in real time
Short, grounded, non-negotiable language.
• Identify patterns in how you’re being treated — and why
Once you see the pattern, you’ll never fall for it again.
• Create a plan for what to ask, what to document, and what to request next
Strategy lowers anxiety because your nervous system has a map.
• Restore your trust in your own perception
You don’t need permission to understand your own body.
What Changes for You
✓ You stop rehearsing your symptoms in panic
✓ Appointments feel manageable, not destabilizing
✓ You stop freezing when a doctor dismisses your concerns
✓ You know how to respond calmly and clearly
✓ You walk out with answers, not confusion
✓ You finally feel like the authority of your own body again
Clarity changes the entire dynamic.
Start With an Email
You don’t need to organize anything perfectly.
Just tell me what’s going on with your body and what has been happening in your appointments.
Send bullet points.
Send screenshots of MyChart.
Send the phrases doctors used that didn’t sit right.
Send the questions you’re afraid to ask.
I’ll read for the pattern and tell you exactly where to start.
→ Email Me to Begin
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